It's Back to School time all across the U.S. I worry about the "kids" more today than ever before. Over my years within the classroom, I witnessed the students experimenting and trying new things at a younger and younger age. As my teaching discipline was high school English...it is fair to say over twenty years I "taught it all" and "taught all of them" and because of that saw teenagers in a natural light...away from home and with peers. Many of them are still "children" inside, but with pressures from Society and friends, they try to come across as adults...both in their words and actions.
I was lucky enough to be one of the trusted "real" adults that the students sought out for advice and guidance. It is fair to say that I offered it freely. It is clear to me that although adults like to say and think that things were the same when we were their age... it's not even close to the same. We had issues and concerns, yes, but not the drama (their word not mine) which is clearly a part of the modern teens' culture. A parent, teacher, or guardian who is not aware that frequent drinking, readily available drugs, and early, early, early sex are the NORM with high schoolers (and even younger) and not the exception... are fooling themselves and at the same time doing a dis-service to their teen. Kids, even the good ones, test the boundaries. Do not be naive.
Over the two decades, I taught in three different states in different parts of the country. I taught in the suburbs and I taught inner-city. There were times the students were well-off financially and there were times that almost all of them qualified for free-lunch. They were all skin colors, many different nationalities and yet every one of them was the same.
Here's the universal sameness :
Children/teens need and expect boundaries!
Children/ teens need and hope for guidance!
Children/teens need consequences when they violate those boundaries!
Children/teens need positive role models not buddies!
Children/ teens need you to actively ask them the hard questions and then not believe the easy answers...because it's easier for you!
Children/teens are not adults...they just pretend that they are!
BUT children and teens do ALL the things adults do and...
they are still not ready.
They still have so much to learn in school...and in life.
May we all take a more active role in young lives;
they are our legacy.
Sue
Thursday, August 26
Monday, August 31
School: Is So Much More Than Books
It's Back to School time all across the U.S. I worry about the "kids" more today than ever before. Over my years within the classroom, I witnessed the students experimenting and trying new things at a younger and younger age. As my teaching discipline was high school English...it is fair to say over twenty years I "taught it all" and "taught all of them" and because of that saw teenagers in a natural light...away from home and with peers. Many of them are still "children" inside, but with pressures from Society and friends, they try to come across as adults...both in their words and actions.
I was lucky enough to be one of the trusted "real" adults that the students sought out for advice and guidance. It is fair to say that I offered it freely. It is clear to me that although adults like to say and think that things were the same when we were their age... it's not even close to the same. We had issues and concerns, yes, but not the drama (their word not mine) which is clearly a part of the modern teens' culture. A parent, teacher, or guardian who is not aware that frequent drinking, readily available drugs, and early, early, early sex are the NORM with high schoolers (and even younger) and not the exception... are fooling themselves and at the same time doing a dis-service to their teen. Kids, even the good ones, test the boundaries. Do not be naive.
Over the two decades, I taught in three different states in different parts of the country. I taught in the suburbs and I taught inner-city. There were times the students were well-off financially and there were times that almost all of them qualified for free-lunch. They were all skin colors, many different nationalities and yet every one of them was the same.
Here's the universal sameness :
Children/teens need and expect boundaries!
Children/ teens need and hope for guidance!
Children/teens need consequences when they violate those boundaries!
Children/teens need positive role models not buddies!
Children/ teens need you to actively ask them the hard questions and then not believe the easy answers...because it's easier for you!
Children/teens are not adults...they just pretend that they are!
BUT children and teens do ALL the things adults do and...
they are still not ready.
They still have so much to learn in school...and in life.
May we all take a more active role in young lives;
they are our legacy.
Sue
I was lucky enough to be one of the trusted "real" adults that the students sought out for advice and guidance. It is fair to say that I offered it freely. It is clear to me that although adults like to say and think that things were the same when we were their age... it's not even close to the same. We had issues and concerns, yes, but not the drama (their word not mine) which is clearly a part of the modern teens' culture. A parent, teacher, or guardian who is not aware that frequent drinking, readily available drugs, and early, early, early sex are the NORM with high schoolers (and even younger) and not the exception... are fooling themselves and at the same time doing a dis-service to their teen. Kids, even the good ones, test the boundaries. Do not be naive.
Over the two decades, I taught in three different states in different parts of the country. I taught in the suburbs and I taught inner-city. There were times the students were well-off financially and there were times that almost all of them qualified for free-lunch. They were all skin colors, many different nationalities and yet every one of them was the same.
Here's the universal sameness :
Children/teens need and expect boundaries!
Children/ teens need and hope for guidance!
Children/teens need consequences when they violate those boundaries!
Children/teens need positive role models not buddies!
Children/ teens need you to actively ask them the hard questions and then not believe the easy answers...because it's easier for you!
Children/teens are not adults...they just pretend that they are!
BUT children and teens do ALL the things adults do and...
they are still not ready.
They still have so much to learn in school...and in life.
May we all take a more active role in young lives;
they are our legacy.
Sue
Tuesday, September 2
Leaving the Comfort Zone
Not too long ago I wrote about "Integrity" one of my own personal choices in life. Although I take a great deal of "heat" in doing so sometimes...I make the choice of handling issues in my life with Integrity: you know, making the right choice in spite of the outcome. That involves telling the truth. Sometimes, these "truths" are said to others... even when they might not be welcome at the time. Admittedly, sometimes it seems as if I am out-spoken, but to me...not addressing a wrong, especially if it affects others negatively, is prideful. It's the easy way out and it's the path of least resistance. I believe it translates that you care for your own well-being more than the well-being of others. That, to me, lacks integrity. With this choice, we are more concerned with being "liked" than trying to right a wrong that is clearly evident and hurtful to others. True, when we make the attempt to correct a wrong...we usually ruffle some feathers. We have to actively step out of our own comfort zone and approach someone who has been safely "existing" (perhaps not even living) in his/her comfort zone. It's difficult to address someone about his/her negative choices in life that affects others. But it can be done. I call it LOVE. sue
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